学长

三年前就开始做学长了，和自己的学长相处的时候也没大没小的，所以很久没有做学弟的感觉了，很久没有叫人学长了。今天，某位学长看到了我那篇比较三年前的我们和三年后的新学弟的blog，在space上写了自己的感触。不愧是学长，与君一席话，胜读十年书。

Apology=]
this is dedicated to 欣爷...

Actually i didnt intend to write this..but after reading ur thread on ur own blog..i decided to write something...which i hope, it makes sense...

it seems that ur quite unsatisfied with how we as seniors treated u last time...and it seems that u still keep this in ur heart...dun deny it...or else u wouldnt mention it aguian in ur blog i suppose...

well u have to understand that its not that we didnt care about u all...its just that maybe we all have our own stuffs to do at that point of time....we DO care about u all...this doesnt necessarily mean tt we have to bring u all out...give u textbooks...bring u all out for shopping...our care comes with other small things...trust me..the bonding we share is far more strong than many other schools i know...among different batches..i think HCI is one of the best institution whereby seniors and juniors are bonded so closely...there are things around u u didnt realise...and for one thing i must say...

the juniors are not supposed to be helped too much...u have to understand..coming to singapore on a scholarship is TOTALLY diffrent frm going to UK/US to study..here we dun worry abt food, housing,medical care..not even laundry...my friend in UK...that kind of life...venturing into a new environment alone...totally different culture...she needs to find part time..need to study..need to find renting houses..need to find partners to share the house together...need to cook food oneself...THERE ARE NO SENIORS ARND...this is called磨练..this is called 独自在外打拼...she will grow..she will learn frm all these...and she treasures watever that is arnd her...

but look at our juniors...luggage got people take...shopping got people bring...wat do they need..everything is so well settled for them...now i look at them..觉得他们真的是温室里的花苞...they dun appreciate the things that have layed infront of them..wat do they wan instead...outing with gals...calling gals out for movies...i just dun understand why they are SO excited about girls...i m not discriminating any girls here..i just dun noe why they are SO excited...i'm not 吃不到葡萄说葡萄酸...i just feel quite sad that the juniors have already got their concept wrong frm the first day they arrive here...we as seniors...can we do anything....???unlikely...

i dun noe abt others..but everytime i call home...mum will say..儿子啊，妈想你啊...four years..never change....simply because of this i can't aford to go arnd wasting my time...

of course i'm not saying im definatly a 正人君子...it's just that at least i know wat i shld do wat i shouldnt..but will the junioprs know..i hope they do...

thats why..tere are many things we seniors dun wan to care much..at least me...they have to learn from their own actions...be it childish or sagacious...only through tis..they will grow...

hahaz..now there are another bunch of juniors downstaris..laughing... playing...wish them good luk for the following years...really...


第一，学长提到了英国同学的“磨练”。人生地不熟，无依无靠，当然可以锻炼人的能力。可是，既然如今我们可以给学弟提供一个好的环境，让他们全心致志于自己该做的事情，比如熟悉新加坡等等，为什么不好？难道非得要他们自己出去才算是对他们好？学长形容他们是“温室里的花朵”，但是，现在越来越多人把花养在温室里，为什么？因为产量高啊，成材率高啊。
当然，我承认我们没有仔细考虑学弟怎么对待我们的好意。往往是我们主观上为他们好，他们却abuse我们对他们的好意，产生了例如约女生出去看电影的情形。也许这就是所谓的溺爱吧。中三的刚当上学长，难免热情过头，情有可原。还好，像我这样的不辨是非的高年级学长不是很多。经过学长的教诲，以后我一定会注意我的做法了。

第二，学长说“ur quite unsatisfied with how we as seniors treated u last time”。是，没错。当看到现在的学长怎么对学弟的时候，不由自主地会感到羡慕，由此联想到我们当时的情况。可能是自己前两年做了太多了，把学长的标准定得太高，所以才会对当初我的学长感到不满。归根到底还是要怪自己太贱，做了这么多，学弟也没有得到什么锻炼，还把自己弄得东不满西不满的~~

第三，学长提到学弟和女生出去的事情。好像这也是从我们下一届开始出现的情况。也许这只是我们无法理解他们的生活方式罢了，没什么大不了的。就像我们打游戏，打牌，打球一样，或许和女生出去只是他们的一种娱乐，放松的途径罢了。

第四，学长说“tere are many things we seniors dun wan to care much”。这是你这样的人的想法。但是，我看有些只管自己的学长未必这么想。他们只是太注重于自己的玩乐，才没有去照顾学弟，这是令我最寒心的。饮水思源，华中的传统，也是华人的传统，但很多人忘记了。呵呵，我知道我的这一个想法很好笑，毕竟当初他们也是被动接受，为什么要强求人家主动回报呢？


不管怎么说，看了学长的这篇blog，令我增长了不少见识，受之不尽。